Slow Hand and Complete Focus


that’s what I want from my man. I want someone who will push the distractions aside and focus their full attention on just one thing.

Recently a friend and I had a discussion on speed dating. My advice to her was ask if he prefers reading or pod casts. If his answer is pod casts, walk away. He’ll suck in bed.

Before you decide I’m a techno-phobe and discount my theory, let me explain. I have nothing against pod casts. I listen to them myself. If I’m doing something monotonous, housework or such, then I’ll slip one on and let my mind take a little vacation. I often listen to court trials or TED talks. I even enjoy listening to a few sex blog pod casts while I get ready for work. The benefit to audio is you only have to dedicate part of your attention to it. You’re free to drive, clean, or otherwise occupy your time.

My hard limit is a man who is incapable of sitting down and picking up a book or E-reader and devoting the energy and focus needed to get lost in a story. A man who only  ‘reads’ audio books need not apply. I want a man who is willing to take the slow road, who enjoys engaging his imagination and wants the tactile feel of progressing through a story.

I want a man who will read for understanding and not just skim along the surface because I’m not an easy read. I have kinks and curves and I want a man who is willing to take the time to learn and understand them all.

Is my theory fool proof? No, of course not. Speed dating doesn’t allow for in depth discussions. Just food for thought.


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