I used to work with a lady who would start most conversations with this line. Now, I’m not a confrontational person. I’m much more likely to smile and walk away than tell you what’s really on my mind. So day after day, I would nod and escape as quickly as I could without being rude.
Finally, one day I was in a mood…yeah it happens. I’d had enough. I think running your spouse down is one of the worst things you can do. It’s a betrayal and I didn’t want to be a part of it any longer.
“Why did you marry him?” I asked.
She shook her head, thinking I was joking around. “I have no idea,” she replied laughing.
“Perhaps you need to spend some time thinking about it. Focus on what attracted you to this man. Tell him what he means to you, how much his existence in your life means to you. Show him respect. Appreciate all the little things he does each day to make your life a better place. And maybe, just maybe, you’d walk around all day with a secret smile on your face because you’d be remembering the fantastic evening you’d spent together, instead of being annoyed at some silly little thing he did.”
Her jaw dropped and I turned away having spoken more to her in that conversation than I had in the 5 years we’d worked together.
Apparently, it was a wasted effort. I heard this morning her husband filed for divorce.
The current acceptable trend to berate your loved ones may seem fun and lighthearted, but it’s not. It’s hurtful. If you love them…tell them…show them. Be their biggest fan. Let them know, every day, that they matter.